How to find yourself when you are lost in life

There can be many times when you feel lost in life. This is not a situation that is restricted to age or social circumstances.

Anyone can feel lost, whether in a loving committed relationship or single, whether they have their dream job and lifestyle or are just starting in life.

There are many reasons for feeling lost in life.

Bereavement or divorce can be a factor, leaving home or University, starting a new job or moving to a new location or just lacking in self-confidence.

The one thing most people would agree on is when you are feeling lost in life, it can be overwhelming and disorienting.

The first step to finding yourself is to slow down and permit yourself to explore your thoughts and emotions.

Spend time working on your inner thoughts to understand the reasons for your feelings.

How do I get back to my original self?

When feeling lost and disconnected from your original self, it's essential to take some time for self-reflection.

Begin by going back to hobbies or interests you used to find interesting or that brought you joy.

Journaling can also help you explore your thoughts and emotions and can help you identify why you are feeling the way you are.

Below are 19 easy ways to reconnect with yourself and rediscover who you are.

19 Easy Tips

1. Ask yourself some difficult questions as to why you are feeling lost

You need to ask yourself some difficult questions as to why you are feeling lost. Consider asking yourself tough questions such as: “What specific aspects of my life are contributing to these feelings?” or “Am I avoiding any important decisions or actions that are making me feel lost in life?” or “Have I been true to my values and passions? “

By delving into these uncomfortable inquiries, you can discover valuable insights that will guide you towards regaining clarity and direction in your life.

It may be difficult but until you take this first step you will remain in the place you are stuck in.

2. Set yourself inspiring exciting goals

When feeling lost, setting inspiring and exciting goals can be a powerful way to navigate back to yourself.

By defining clear objectives that resonate with your desires and values, you create a roadmap for self-discovery and growth.

These goals should challenge you just enough to spark motivation and excitement, but not so much that they become overwhelming.

Whether it's related to personal development, career aspirations, or relationships, setting meaningful goals can reignite your sense of purpose and direction, helping you to rediscover who you truly are and where you want to go in life.

3. Question whether you have a defined purpose for your life

Have you ever asked yourself whether you have a defined purpose for your life?

Many of us will feel lost, it is a common experience we will go through at some point in our lives.

When you are feeling this way it can be a challenge navigating through the uncertainty and confusion you may be in to get to a place of clarity and purpose.

By taking the time and defining your purpose you can bring real vision to the way you are feeling.

4. Examine your life values

What are the values you hold in life? Are your values aligned with the way you are living your life at this moment in time?

If you feel you aren’t aligned with your values and beliefs, you will feel adrift in your life. Examining your values and living a congruent life can help you discover who you are and where you need to be going.

5. Are you sacrificing your happiness for the happiness of other people

Do you put the wishes and desires of everybody else first? Being a people pleaser can mean you start to relegate your dreams and ambitions to the bottom of the pile.

This is not the way to find yourself if you are feeling lost in life.

You need to start putting yourself first. It isn’t a case of being selfish by doing this, but more a case of personal survival and happiness.

You can’t sacrifice your happiness for the sake of everyone else, no one is a winner in the long run.

6. Are you suffering with overwhelm do you need to cut some things out of your life?

When you are feeling overwhelmed in life, you can begin to lose track of who you are and what you are doing. Having too many commitments and trying to serve too many people can leave you burnt out and stressed.

When you get to this stage you need to start cutting back on commitments and begin taking care of your own mental and physical well-being to find your direction in life.

7. Take a close look at your personal relationships

Examine your personal relationships. How are they looking? Do you have relationships that are supportive and loving or are they an uphill battle that leaves you constantly drained?

The people you have in your life will play a major role in how you act and the direction you go in.

Try to surround yourself with people who raise you and who want the best for you. This is a good way of finding your direction again.

8. Are you following your own true path?

Do you live a life you want to be living or are you following a path someone else wants you to live?

If you don’t set your own course in life, it will leave you adrift, not fulfilling your potential and not living by your values.

Follow your own true path to discover yourself again.

9. Are you happy with the occupation you have chosen in life?

Does your career bring you joy and contentment? Are you doing something you can truly say you love doing?

The career path you choose is important to the direction you go in life. If you are doing something that doesn’t fit with who you are then you will feel adrift.

Even if it means making a major career change, you need to do something that you are happy doing.

10. Are you living mindfully and enjoying every single day?

Do you live mindfully? The way you think greatly affects the way you are feeling and the way you view the world.

Adopting a mindful practice can give you a whole new perspective on your life and can make you appreciate it and enjoy it far more.

Mindfulness makes you appreciate what you have, it helps you to cut out the negative chatter and view life more positively.

All of this combined helps you to discover the direction you want in your life.

11. Focus on the positive and avoid criticism and negative self-talk

Do you ever catch yourself talking negatively or thinking unhelpful negative thoughts? Often these thoughts are negative automatic thoughts - the thoughts that randomly pop into your head without any warning. They are also the thoughts that control your life and the choices you make.

Becoming more aware of the thoughts you have and replacing negative ones with more positive helpful thoughts can have a big impact on the direction of your life.

12. Have you asked yourself what will truly make me happy?

What makes you happy? Have you ever given yourself the time and space to ask and answer this question honestly and in-depth? If not, you need to.

Examining what makes you happy, what motivates and thrills you will give you the drive, ambition and clarity to rediscover who you are, where you are going and what you want from your life.

13. Are you organising your time to get the most out of life or procrastinating?

Planning your life means organising your time to be as productive and organised as possible.

When you plan, you make sure you are putting in the time you need for yourself, for your own personal development, self-care and relaxation.

A day that isn’t planned can go to places you don’t want it to go.

You can end up procrastinating and wasting time, which can lead to you berating yourself and feeling negative.

Start to plan your days well and you will discover so much more about yourself and the direction you want to go in.

14. Are you putting self-care at the top of your priority list?

Too many women don’t prioritize self-care. They spend their time on everyone else, taking care of their needs that they forget their own. In time this can lead to them becoming lost in their own lives.

You need to prioritise yourself in your life. Look after your mental and physical well-being. Nurture yourself and give yourself time and space to do things you love and that will relax, rejuvenate and excite you. Take time every week for YOU!

15. Are you visualising your perfect future?

Do you feel lost because you don’t know where you are going in your future? Do you know what your future looks like or how you want it to look?

Create a practice of visualisation. Spend some time every day visualising what you want your future to be like. What you want to do for a career, what you want to spend time doing, where you want to live, hobbies and places you want to visit.

Go into it in as much detail as possible and then spend time every day thinking about it.

In time the things you have focused on will be the life you are living.

16. Are you surrounding yourself with encouraging positive people?

The people you have around you will influence you. If you are surrounded by interesting, positive, life-affirming people, you will be the same. If you are surrounded by negative people who hold no interest in life, this will also be your reality.

The people you are around will mirror who you are so make sure you have positive people who encourage you to be the best version of yourself. People who will build you up and support you. They will help you to find your direction in life.

17. Shake It up try something new

When you get stuck in the same routines, doing the same things life can become dull and you can begin to lose your way.

If you are feeling lost and lacking direction you need to introduce some new activities into your life.

Start shaking it up by trying something new and exciting. It could be a new hobby, a course, a new career or a change of location.

Whether it is large or small doesn’t matter as long as you feel excited and motivated.

18. Adopt a healthy lifestyle

When you look after your body you are looking after your mental well-being as well. Adopting a healthy lifestyle will give you impetus in your life. The more you focus on your health and well-being the more drive and motivation you will have.

Start setting yourself healthy goals. It could be to lose weight, get fitter, have a better night’s sleep or spend more time in the fresh air. Whatever your healthy lifestyle goal is, you will know you are giving yourself direction in life by following it.

19. Use a live coach to put your plan into action

If you are feeling lost in life, working with a life coach can be one of the best investments you can make.

They can help you to declutter your mind, to start laying out plans and goals and to give you the direction you are looking for.

A life coach is there to offer you support and accountability.

With tools and advice, they can help you to discover the direction you need to be going in far faster than you alone.

By working with a life coach, you can gain clarity on the vision you have for your life, identify any obstacles that may be holding you back, and create a step-by-step plan to move you forward and rediscover yourself.

Life coaching can give you the quickest boost to rediscovering who you are what you want to be doing with your life and the best way to go about it.

Final Thoughts

Your journey through life is not linear, there will always be twists and turns along the way. It is perfectly okay to feel adrift and uncertain at times.

This is a normal part of life, no one has it all figured out all of the time and to expect this of yourself is putting too much pressure on you.

When you find yourself lost and directionless, use this time as an opportunity for growth and exploration.

Whether it is through journaling, meditation, seeking the support of a life coach or simply taking the time to engage in activities that bring you joy.

Remember, finding yourself is a journey that can take some time. It is a gradual process that requires patience and understanding of yourself.

It can be a wholly satisfying adventure if you follow the above tips and take the time to reconnect with yourself and commit to who you are and what you can do.

Stay committed to the journey you are on, trust in yourself, and have a belief that clarity and self-awareness will come in time.

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